Plastic Smile Writes:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months and lately we've been talking about having sex and what it would be like.

I'm a very outgoing, social butterfly type of girl. I'm sometimes crazy with a mix of insane I'm sometimes very emotionally unstable and I have a panic disorder, but put all that aside; and I'm unique and kind of an outcast. I don't trust easy because I've been hurt some many times. I love to write poetry and lyrics. I wear my feelings on my sleeve. I get confused easily and I love my life.

My boyfriend is the only one that can make me smile when I want to cry. He's the one person I can tell ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to; he knows things about me I won't even tell people I've known since kindergarten. He can look at me and I'll instantly start smiling and giggling. Yeah, he's my boyfriend but our relationship is more than that. He's my bestfriend, no one else can compare to him. No one else will ever make me feel the way he does. We have so many inside jokes and a secret handshake and it's a very amazing relationship. I am 120% in love with him and he feels the same about me. That's why he's so special. I know I love him and he loves me but are we moving too fast for two teens only together four months?

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Four months is not that long of a time. People have a tendency to use the word love way too early and way too often. It may feel like love but it's probably just the beginning of a very typical teenage relationship. Even so, right now it feels great and everything is wonderful. The question for you to decide is whether this person is worthy of engaging in this very intimate act with you. Teenagers have sex, so I won't try and pretend that somehow you will wait until your wedding day. I just want you to understand that your body is a special thing and no one should have access to it unless you are really sure they deserve it. Even more important is that you feel that you are ready to accept the responsibility of having sexual relationships.

Sex is great. However, it's a very serious thing and you should always talk to your parents or other adults to get a real life perspective. Bad things can happen when having sex and you need to make sure you are ready to protect yourself from these issues. The last thing a young girl needs is to get pregnant or catch a sexually transmitted disease. Make sure you do your homework before having sex with anyone!

Your reputation is everything. Make sure you are dealing with mature dudes who can respect the gift you are sharing with them. You don't need to have your business all over town!

If you have any doubts about having sex then my advice is easy, don't do it. When you are ready you will know and there should be no doubts. Be patient, be safe and don't be afraid to talk with your family about this very important issue. You might be suprised how much good advice you can get!