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NICK WRITES:

Ok, my girlfriend and I have been together 2 years now and we are very serious. We are actually engaged. We are very kinky, she knows my fantasies and i know her's as well. She wants to do stuff with another girl, she's not bisexual she just wants to do it.  She's done it before while we were together and I was there but I wasnt exactly allowed to do anything but watch.  She got mad at me when I tried join!

In a way, I kinda like it but then again with us being so serious it kinda bothers me. Plus, I feel if she gets to do stuff  then I should be involved and shouldn't have to just watch. I just want some advice on what to do cause she's wanting to do it again and I don't know what to do or say to her please help me out!

MR. GOODADVICE RESPONDS:

You need to understand a couple of things.  First, your girlfriend likes girls!  She wants girls and she will continue to be with girls whether you are there watching or whether she is doing it behind your back.  Second, the fact that she is being honest is a good thing. She is telling you that this is something she needs in her life.  Honesty like this is very rare.  Now, that being said, it's up to you whether you can handle this particular situation.

It is very unfair for her to be able to have other sexual partners when you can't partake in the festivities.  You shouldn't put up with this kind of crap from her.  If she can't share, then you should consider whether you want to be in this relationship any longer.  After all, why should you be the only one who sacrifices here!  At a minimum, you should be able to go off once in a while and do your own thing if it's too difficult for her to watch you engage in sexual acts in person.  

This is not a good situation.  It appears to me that she is probably more interested in women then men.  The fact that she won't let you do anything with the girl tells me that this is all about her sexual needs, not yours.  At some point, I think she will probably meet a women who she wants to be with and end up leaving you.  

Nonetheless, sometimes people are happy together bringing other people into the relationship.  However, there has to be fairness.  Your situation is not fair at all.  Grow a set and make it fair, or walk away.  That's my best advice to you.