Confused Love Writes

Well, there's this guy my brother is friends with, he's really sweet and we're pretty good friends and on Christmas, I told him how I feel about him and he told me he feels the same. But the thing is he's coming over again in a few weeks and staying the night, he wants me to go hangout with him one-on-one before he hangs out with my brother. I want to but I have a boyfriend and I'm afraid I'll do something stupid. I don't want to mess with his relationship with my brother and I certainly don't want to screw up with my boyfriend. What do I do to keep all relationships okay?

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Well it is virtually impossible not to screwup with your boyfriend if you are seeing another guy. So, I don't know if I can solve that particular problem. However, it seems that your relationship with your boyfriend is on it's way downhill and you are just going through the motions until you find someone else. I am a firm believer that it's easier to breakup with your partner when you have their replacement already waiting in the wings!

As far as dating your brother's friend that can be a little touchy. Have you discussed this with your brother? I have to assume that the idea of him thinking about his buddy banging his sister is a real unpleasant visual. Even so, it's not totally impossible for this situation to work. You absolutely should speak with your brother and at least attempt to get his permission. He may be okay with it, or he may just tell you all the bad things about this guy that you need to heat to scare you away.

Once you know where your brother stands you can decide how far you want to take this relationship with his buddy. Chances are even if your brother is against it you will still mess around with this guy because it sounds like you already have feelings for him. Just remember if things go wrong with this dude not to poison his friendship with your brother. Keep your problems with him to yourself, that's the least you can do if you do decide to pursue him.