Sarah Writes:

I have been in need of good advice lately, and I really hope you can help me. I'm 13 and in 7th grade, and I have a HUGE crush on this boy. He's all I EVER think about!!!! The problem is that I don't no him as well as I wish. He's on the school tennis team (so am I) and I talk to him as much as possible, but thats still not alot. I don't have any classes with him, so I never see him at school.

I have dated other guys (3 in the past year each lasting about 3-5 months). I want to become flirty friends and turn that into a relasionship. Everything is special about him! He's hilarious and cute!!! Also, he's not stuck up and he's a great athlete! thats all I ever wanted in a guy! I've never felt this way about someone!

How do I get to know him without seeming like I really really want to (which I do)?? Please help me!!!

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Aww, young love is always such a beautiful thing! I remember those days of having a huge crush on someone and never having the courage to act on it. Learn from my mistakes! If you want something go get it! Don't be afraid of rejection! You have useful tools available to you now that people my age didn't have. You can hide behind you computer and start friendships from the safety of your Myspace or Facebook page! Use all of those social network tools to your advantage! I would have asked out hundreds of people if I could have avoided face to face confrontation like young people can do today. Look at his social network profiles and find out what he likes and dislikes and you will have the upper hand when you make your move!

If you are more courageous then I was then simply step up to the plate and ask him to play some tennis. You have a mutual interest so that is a very big plus in your favor. Just make sure you let him win because no guy likes losing to a girl and it will no doubt stop your friendship dead in it's tracks.

You obviously have dated before so you know how this works. Show interest but don't smother him. Have fun and then leave him alone until he comes looking for you! The bottom line is that you should simply go for what you want and in the end you will know where you stand. If he likes you it's great and if he doesn't you can will get over it and move on to the next guy. At your age there will be plenty more of them in your future!