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Ann Writes:

I have been married less then a year.  I just found out that my husband has a baby with another woman.  The baby is six months old, so its obvious he was cheating on me during our engagement and just prior to our marriage.  I found out about the baby because the other woman is also married and her husband came and told me.  I am simply sick to death about this and don't know what to do.

I love my husband and he has begged for my forgiveness.  He says that he just had sex with this woman one time.  I know that right now I am angry and upset, but I think that I can forgive him and try and put this behind us.  I just don't know for sure whether its the right thing to do.  Please give me your thoughts.

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Get out of this marriage right away!  Do not waste another moment of your time or energy thinking about what do, pack your things and go!

You husband did not come to you and confess a mistake.  He was caught cheating because someone ratted him out.  Had that person not come forward to tell you the ugly truth your husband would have continued to keep this information away from you.  He does not deserve your forgiveness and you shouldn't give it to him.  

If you believe that he only had sex with this woman one time you are in complete denial that you married a real loser.  Anyone who would be cheating during their engagement period is an absolute creep and you should get the hell away from him.  The engagement period is suppose to be the time when a couple is head over heals in love!  Obviously your husband doesn't love you as much as you think he does.  If he cheated on you before the marriage, exactly what do you expect will happen now that you are his wife?  I suspect the cheating will continue.  I also suspect the cheating has never actually stopped.  This guy is just no good, no good at all!

Your husband now has a child with another woman.  This is not exactly a real good start for your marriage.  It fact, I would venture to say that this situation is a complete disaster.  If you stay in this marriage you will constantly be reminded of his act of betrayal.  Imagine how you will feel when your husband gets dragged into court over child support and visitation issues.  Even worse, imagine how you will feel when you have to see this child in your home on weekends for the next eighteen years or so!  Staying with your husband commits you to a lifetime of dealing with the other woman and this child.  Who needs or wants to deal with that bullshit?

No, this marriage appeared to be over before it began.  Get going before you discover what everyone reading this advice column already knows, you married a real piece of crap.