CHRIS WRITES:

Okay so there's this girl, and I know you probably get millions of these so I'll try to be brief. She's very pretty, and an absolutely amazing girl. I feel like she's someone I could really enjoy spending time with and I want to ask her out. There's just a few problems. First off, she's bisexual and in love with her best friend. I don't want to tell her to move on, as her friend has a boyfriend, and have her think I'm a jerk for it. But at the same time, I don't like watching people pine over other people. I'm confused as to what to do with her.

And to top it all off, I some how managed to offend her friend, and by exstension her. She wanted me to meet him and her at the mall, but I was apprehensive about meeting the friend. We got into a fight about it and now she's not talking to me.

How do I salvage this relationship? I've already apologized and am waiting for an answer but I can't see much hope for things to get better.

MR. GOODADVICE RESPONDS:

As you probably know, I don't believe in the bisexual thing.  People like one thing more than the other and that usually tells me all I need to know about their sexuality.  In my opinion, bisexuals are just people who haven't come to terms with what they really want, either because they are afraid to deal with the reality of being gay, or because they just are ready to be gay.  Your friend likes women.  At some point in her life she is going to want to be with a woman full time, twenty-four seven.  What that means for you and the other men in her life right now is that you are all wasting your time and setting yourselves up to get really really hurt.

So, I guess whatever situation you got yourself into recently with her and her friend is all for the best.  She isn't really ever going to make you happy, so don't waste anymore time thinking about her.  Interestingly enough you said you aren't a fan of people pining away waiting for others to see the light, but isn't that what you are doing?  Follow your own advice and go get a girl who likes men and only men.  Otherwise, you will be trying to compete with something that you simply can't compete with, unless you are willing to undergone a sex change and look good in a dress and a nice pair of heels.