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Lady2008 Asks:

I'm 19 years old and I'm pregnant. I'm separated and I've been pregnant once before, but it wasn't by my husband.   During my first pregnancy, my parents took me to get an abortion, that was in January.   Now, its July and I'm 11 weeks pregnant but this time I plan on keeping my baby.  

I'm still not divorced yet. My baby daddy's parents know that I'm pregnant and they're all for it, but I don't know how my parents are going to react because I'm daddy's little girl. He was extremely hurt and disappointed when I told him I was pregnant the first time and my moms reacted by yelling at me everytime we saw each other, except at church.  My question is how do I tell my parents this time???

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

You don't waste much time do you?  I really don't understand how you can expect your parents not to be hurt and angry about the way you are handling yourself.  It appears you are in great hurry to ruin your life and perhaps the life of this soon to be child.  Let me get this straight, you are nineteen and already heading to divorce court; you got pregnant from someone other then your husband; you had an abortion less then eight months ago and are already eleven weeks pregnant again?  Geez, I am surprised your parents would even speak to you at this point!

You are not acting like you are capable of handling the responsibilities of raising a child. You will definitely need the help of your parents and whoever else is willing to assist you in bringing this child up properly.  It is just a shame that you will be losing so many important years in your own life.  Don't you realize that at your age you should be exploring all the world has to offer?  That being said, I applaud your desire to be a good mom.  You are just going to have to do a lot of hard work and growing up in order to succeed.  I won't count you out just yet, but I have tremendous concern.

Tell your parents right away.  Don't keep this a secret much longer.  You will need their help in making sure you are doing everything right in preparing for childbirth.  (Rent Juno)  Your parents are just gonna be sick about this and you are just gonna have to put up with their rage.  You deserve their rage, so accept it when it comes.  They only want the best for you I am sure and they deserve to vent their frustration.  In the end, they will be the best friends you will have as you raise this child.  It will be them that hopefully will be there to give you some well deserved rest when you need a break from your new life of motherhood.

After you tell your parents, go buy some damn condoms and don't leave home without them.  Something tells me you need to carry these things around twenty four hours a day, seven days a week!

One more thing, when you go to church, PAY ATTENTION!