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Tina Writes:

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now.  Our relationship seems pretty normal.  We go out to the movies and dinner and do the regular stuff people do.  I recently spent the night at his apartment and while I was there I used his computer.  I couldn't help myself and I looked through the history on the browser.  In the history,  I found a gay social networking website called Bgclive.  

I have never suspected my boyfriend might be into guys.  He is very, very, very masculine and so are all of his friends.  Should I be concerned about this website on his computer?  Is it possible that he could be living another life behind my back?  

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Yes, it is very possible that your man is living a secret life.  Gay men come in many different shapes, sizes, personalities and styles.  I wouldn't be surprised if your man is gay and that some of his really macho friends are as well.  In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if he met them on a gay social networking site!

The easiest way to deal with this situation is to simply ask your man why this website is on his computer's history.  There may be a very simple solution, like someone who is gay was using his computer, then again I don't know if that solves your problem!  This however calls for him to be honest about a very difficult issue, so I wouldn't really count on getting the truth this way.  

So this is what you do. Go on your own computer and find a picture of a really, really, really sexy dude. (Make sure the dude looks similar to one of your man's friends)  Then go and sign up on this social networking website and create a fake profile.  Make sure you use the location where you and your man reside.  Then just wait.  See if your man sends your fake profile an email!  (It's sorta like fishing)  You can also browse through the profiles and see if you find him there lurking in the shadows!  If your man is gay and your profile is hot enough, he will find it and you will have your answer!

If you do find him on the gay social network, I don't think you should let him off too easy.  I would suggest flirting with him and setting up a date.  Imagine his face when he shows up for the date and you are sitting there ready to slap the shit out of him!  Yes, you must slap the shit out of him!  Just remember you are not slapping him because his is gay, you are slapping him because he has deceived you in a very serious way.  A person is entitled to pursue whatever makes them happy in life, however, they have no right to play games with the lives of others.  If a guy has a girlfriend and is sexing dudes on the side it is just WRONG!  The girlfriend has the right to know what the rules of the game are so she can decide if she wants to play!  I can think of nothing more hurtful then this type of situation and I hope it works out for you.

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