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Noemi Writes:

I have been dating this guy for a two weeks.  He is very nice and has a good job.  I have have enjoyed our evenings out and really don't have anything negative to say about him. However, yesterday after we finished talking on the phone he said, "I love you".  I was caught off guard and answered him with a simple "me too".  He got really offended and asked me why I didn't say "I love you" back.  I didn't have a real good answer and the phone call ended on a really bad note.

Can you please give me some advice on how I can get this guy to slow down just a bit.  I really like him but I have to say that I haven't been able to get this last conversation out of my mind.  What should I do?

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

Yikes!  This guy sounds like he has real dependency issues.  How in the world can he utter those three words after just two weeks.  It just doesn't make sense unless there is something seriously wrong with him.  I don't think you should try and get him to slow down, I think you need to get away from him as fast as you can.

People just don't fall in love that quickly.  It seems this guy is on the fast track trying to close the deal.  Unless you are eager to get married in two months and be pregnant before Labor Day, I suggest you forget about him.  

Anyone who can say "I love you" in two weeks, is someone who will say anything in order to get what they want.  You don't need someone in your life who so easily gives away his soul.  You need a man who is patient enough to get to know you.  Even more importantly, you need a man who is willing to wait until you get to know him.  This guys sounds like a real needy character.  Needy people have a tendency to be controlling, jealous and just plain miserable

Walk away now.  There is nothing to discuss.  Don't apologize for not loving him.  Tell him that you don't love him and that there is no way he could possibly love you.  Tell him to get some therapy for his irrational behavior and then start looking for a new man.