Paige Writes:

I've been with this boy for almost a year. In the beginning we were happy and then his sister came home from this "bad kid" home. It created all this drama with his family because his sister doesn't listen for anything.

Well I started helping out around my boyfriend's house and what not. His mom no longer likes me the way she used too, everything's going wrong all at the same time, I don't feel like I can handle this. I talked to my boyfriend about it. He's always upset about his family situation, and hopes it won't cause me to leave him because his family's rude to me all the time no matter what I do to help. I told him I'm not in a relationship with his family; I'm in one with him.

I told him no matter how hard things get I'm here. I am there for him. I have been. But lately things have been going worse then ever and I don't know what to do. He's been acting weird with me. He brings up maybe taking a break because he wants me to be happy and not around all the drama. I tell him no, I'm here for him. Then the past few days when I call him he acts like it's annoying that I call.

When I'm nice to him he's mean to me. No matter what I do it's not enough for him. I don't know whether I'm doing something wrong or if he's just being a jerk? I'm so confused and it hurts me so much. I've tried talking to him but he doesn't listen. I know he still cares but I don't know if he wants to be in a relationship anymore. I think he doesn't want to say it. I don't know what to do or think, help!

MR. GOODADVICE RESPONDS:

It sounds like you are losing this battle. Somewhere along the line your boyfriend has realized that he can't have you and keep his family happy. You have wrongfully concluded that your relationship is only between you and your man. Your man and his family come as a package deal. So as much as you have to kiss his ass to keep him happy, you have to do the same with his sister and mother. This is not unusual and you shouldn't be upset about the reality of having to deal with "in-laws". They were there before you and they will be there after you are gone, that is just a fact of life.

You are saying all the wrong things. Telling your man repeatedly that your relationship is between him and you is asking him to take sides. If you try and get him to take sides you will be left standing alone picking up the pieces.

Obviously, he is trying to get himself out of this situation, that is why he is acting shady and treating you badly. Right or wrong, his family will come first until he puts a ring on somebody's finger.

It may not be too late to fix this situation. It's gonna take alot of sacrifice on your part. If this guy is worth the sacrifice then accept reality and start kissing up to the family. If he isn't worth the sacrifice or you can't find it in your heart to suck up to these people, move on!