Internet Love...Right or Wrong?
Saturday, November 14, 2009 at 8:37PM Katie writes:
My sister doesnt think that I should be going out with this guy, but i love him and he loves me. I met him on the internet and she thinks that is a bad thing. We've been dating for almost a year now and so far there hasn't been any problems. I did make sure he wasn't a creep before I met him but that doesn't stop my sister from telling me that I am wasting my time.
I told my boyfriend and he said he didn't want to cause trouble in my family and that maybe we should break-up. He keeps saying, "blood is thicker than water". Now I think he might be losing interest in me. I don't know what to do. Should I break up with my boyfriend or should I stay with him. I'm so confused on what to do.
MR. GOODADVICE RESPONDS:
I am a firm believer that if you find someone on the Internet you will lose them on the Internet. The Internet is like a big fishing pond. People create profiles on numerous social networks and log in everyday to see if they have caught anyone's interest. People can have dozens of profiles and can be meeting dozens of people with very little effort.
A lot of people use the Internet just to have sex without any intention of entering into a relationship. So you sister's concerns are very real. I think that you need to be realistic. It's very unlikely that your boyfriend deleted his profiles on the various social networks he belongs too. So I am sure he continues to communicate with new people everyday and sooner or later he will come into contact with someone he is interested in. I think your feelings that he is trying to end your relationship may have some merit.
The bottom line is that you can't really take anyone serious when you meet them on the Internet. It's useful tool for having fun but I wouldn't say it's a good way to find the man of your dreams.
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Reader Comments (1)
That was a pretty generalized response. Many people meet over the internet and have had successful relationships. Yes, people do use the internet for a quick fix, but more often than not people do find love. The thing about internet relationships is if you want it to work in real life... you have to take it out of the internet and start seeing each other in real life, not just through chatting. I met my significant other over the internet by chance. If you have met him in person, I say don't break up with him because of someone else's insecurities about the internet. If you look before you cross the street chances are you won't be hit by a car. Same with the internet. Be safe about who you talk to and if you're confident with your decision there is no need to listen to someone who does not see your relationship on a day to day basis. Let her worry about her own relationship.