My ex-boyfriend wants to cheat with me while he is engaged to another woman. What's up with this? Should I tell the fiance? I do not answer his calls or respond to his texts, but his other ex tells me that he texts her too. He calls while he is jacking off, etc. Will this guy ever eventually change? He is 40 and the fiance is 28. I thought younger was supposed to be greater? Why is he still looking to cheat?

Him and I were together on and off for a period of 11 years. I could not commit to him because he cheated on me. I would break up with him and eventually go back with him because I believed it was convenient. He wanted to get married and/or live together but I would always be the one to walk away. Finally when I did it for good, he meets this current girlfriend and they become engaged 4 months after they meet. They met at a cemetery! His son passed from a incurable disease and his son is buried next to her dead husband! That is how they met. He is 40, she is 28. She has a 5 year old daughter and he pays more attention to this girl than his own kids. We had no kids together. I'm not that dumb. So during the times that he has cheated on me, it was with his ex-wife. She tells me that he calls her as well. He has called me. I don't answer the phone or respond to his texts. The latest call was Sunday night around 10pm and then I got a text saying he was in the area and wanted to "talk". I didn't see the message until the morning but I responded this time saying "if your ever in the area during the day, I'm sure I would be able to talk to you then". No response of course. This guy seems like Tiger Woods. Just wanting to get it from all girls, when he can get away with it. I'm not sure how this girl can get engaged to someone without even knowing much about. I feel like going to her and showing her the texts, etc before she takes the plunge. What do you think?

MR. GOOD ADVICE RESPONDS:

I am curious about this guy. What is it that makes him have such a strong impact on all of your lives? Something tells me there is more to the story here, probably a lot more.

The bottom line is that men will get away with whatever you let they get away with. This is more about you and the women in his life than it is about him. Obviously, he cheats on women and the women in his life have allowed him to continue this pattern of behavior for quite a long time. Why should he stop cheating if there are no consequences for his actions? Imagine being able to do whatever you want to other people without them ever holding you accountable. Chances are you would continue to act in a shady manner as well.

This man dates women who put up with his bullshit, plain and simple. He is never going to stop because his pretty face, charm or his magical penis helps him garner forgiveness for the shitty things he does to people who love him.

Think about it for a moment, he has all the ex's communicating with each other getting updates on his life! That's a tribute to his skills as a manipulator and a sign for you ladies that something is horribly wrong here.

This guy treated you and all the other women in a bad way. You shouldn't accept behavior like this from any man. If they cheat once, they will cheat again. So when they cheat throw them to the curb! Don't answer their calls, don't read their texts and don't invite them to discuss anything in their life, whether it's night or day! There is simply nothing to talk about with a man like this and there is no need to worry about whose life he is screwing up now! Bottom line this is not your problem anymore. Stay out of it!

You did the right thing by leaving him. It does, however, seem like you are still available to him. Stop all communication. Let this man learn from his mistakes. Let him learn that when he mistreats people he loses them completely! Maybe, after he loses enough good people, he may change.